I’ve had a crush on my co-worker for ages. I finally got the courage to ask her out and she said yes! Now I’m trying to figure out what to do for our first date to keep her interest. How do you keep a girl interested and make a first date memorable?
Hank, I’ve got the perfect plan for you. It’s a recipe for a first date that she will never forget.
First, go to her facebook and get as many of her pictures as you can. Print them all out. For extra points, you can cut out the eyes. That really adds a memorable flair!
Now hang them up all over your apartment and tell her that there’s an emergency and that she needs to come over (women love being lied to!). When she gets there, tell her that your emergency is that there are too many beautiful women staring at you while looking at all the pictures of her hung up around you.
For full effect, you should be wearing adult size onesie pajamas.
Oh wait. That’s actually the worst advice possible. Jesus Christ. What the f*ck is wrong with me.
Alright, so you want to impress this girl on your first date because you’ve liked her forever. You’ve probably built up an image of her in your head that’s unsustainable, but hey! Gotta break up the fantasy sometime!
So you’re trying to think of ways to impress her. That’s your first mistake right there dude. You don’t need to impress her.
She already likes who you are as a person, or she wouldn’t have agreed to go out with you. She’s already interested in you. Relax. You don’t have to go all out or do any super expensive crazy date to keep her interested.
That’s actually going to turn her off. If you feel the need to impress her, what that really stems from is you feeling like you’re not enough for her on your own. So quit that sh*t!
She likes you, she wants to go out on a date with you. That means that you’re totally fine as you are. There’s no need to impress her.
Women can always tell when a guy has an agenda, and if she senses that your agenda is to impress her, she’s going to realize that you feel inadequate to have her. That’s going to make her believe that you’re inadequate to have her. Don’t make her believe that. That would suck.
So drop the need to impress her. In fact, drop any expectations that you have about this date in the first place. All that’s going to do is create additional goals.
Don’t think about kissing her, or think about whether you can get her to come home with you, or whether you want to make her your girlfriend, or anything that has to do with expectations about the future that you’ll be disappointed about if they don’t come to pass.
That’s going to f*ck you up 100% of the time. If you’re thinking about the future, you’re not going to be thinking about the time you’re spending with her in the moment, and she’s going to be able to sense it and it’s going to turn her off.
She’ll be thinking “Jeez, why did I stop having sex with Nick to go out on a date with this asshole. He’s not even paying attention to me. I should stop and pick up another 30 pack of Magnum condoms on my way back to Nick’s house…”
So don’t be that guy.
With that said, there are a few great ways to make your date stand out from some other first dates she’s been on.
You want to do something different than the ‘dinner and a movie’ plan. For one, that’s predictable. For two, you can’t talk to her during the movie, unless you want me to unleash white hot motherf*cking rage all over you.
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You want to pick a date where it’s easy to have a great conversation, and you want to keep it casual. You’re looking for a relaxed environment that’s not too loud. If you can, try to match the date to her interests, if you know what they are. Does she love the outdoors? Take her for a walk in the park! Is she interested in animals? Go to the zoo, ya dummy! Does she like S&M? Take her to your favorite dungeon and put a ball-gag in your mouth!
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The only other piece of advice I have for you is this: switching up the location on a date is a great way to make it more memorable for her. If you take her to some place like the park, then maybe a coffee shop, then a walk through town that maybe ends up at a bar if things go well, it’s going to feel like you’ve spent much more time together than you actually have.
That’s going to increase how comfortable she is with you, because it will have felt like you’ve been together for a long time.
A woman wants to spend time around a guy who she likes and she feels comfortable around. She already said yes to going on a date with you, so we know she likes you. Now it’s up to you to be a guy who it’s easy to be comfortable with. Be calm, happy, relaxed, and in a genuinely good mood with her. Your date is going to go fine.
Anyone have any first date horror stories to scare the sh*t out of Hank with? Anyone got any great ideas for first dates? Leave them below.