I can’t get the women I really want, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’ve got a decent amount of money, I’ve got all my hair, and I’m in pretty good shape. The only thing I can think of is that there’s something wrong with me and that’s why women aren’t attracted to me. What am I doing wrong?
Quentin, I’m sorry. You’ve made it clear that you’ve got everything women want… money, hair, a nice body… that means there’s only one option left. You’re defective.
About 5% of men are defective, and it means that no woman will ever be attracted to them. You must be one of those unlucky 5%. I’m sorry Quentin. You’re f*cked. Go join a monastery or something and get some meaning in your life, because you’re not going to be getting any pussy.
Wait. No. That’s bullsh*t. Men aren’t defective. Women are interested in more than hair, money, and an in-shape body. You’re not defective!
You just have a miniscule penis.
Really, if you want good advice, I can tell you this right now: the reason you’re not getting the women you want is all in your head and your mindset.
Truth is, women don’t really care about whether you’re balding, or broke, or in shape. We’ve all seen balding, ugly, broke guys with super good looking women. That’s not the criteria that you’re being judged upon.
There’s nothing wrong with you, but you are doing something wrong. You’re viewing female attraction through a mindset that’s going to destroy your chances to be with the kind of woman you want. That mindset is thinking there’s some checklist of characteristics to have that will make women attracted to you.
Our sick, f*cked up society teaches us that from a very early age. “You are what you own! You are what you look like! You are your status in society!” It’s all out there to sell more products.
What you really should focus on isn’t what’s outside you, it’s what’s inside you. Forget about what you look like for a second (don’t stop working out or anything, just stop believing that your appearance is what controls female attraction to you).
As far as I can tell from your email, there’s nothing wrong with you as a person (besides all of those children’s bodies you keep in your basement). You need to start acting that way.
The only way to become deeply attractive to the women you want is to know, deep down in your soul, that you’re a good, worthwhile person that is worthy of the woman you want.
You’ve gotta know that you’re good enough to have whatever woman you’re attracted to, and that you’re a person that’s attractive to women, and you’ve got to have unshakeable confidence in that fact.
Because if you don’t believe that you’re worthy of the woman you want, you can bet your tiny malformed nutsack that she’s not going to believe it either.
I know you might be sitting there groaning to yourself and saying “Ugh, another asshole telling me I need to have confidence in order to get women… what the f*ck does that even mean?!?”
And I hear you. Telling you to “get confidence” doesn’t mean sh*t.
So here’s what you should actually do: focus all of your energy and attention on being in a genuinely good mood. Do it all the time.
Women are attracted to men who are happy, calm, and comfortable with themselves. Who seem like they enjoy living life. Who are in a good mood, and whose good mood is infectious to those around them (no, not like ebola).
that’s confidence. that’s how you get it.
You can control your mood. It might be difficult at the beginning, but it gets easier and easier as time goes on. Just drop negative lines of thought when you notice them and focus on only doing things that feel good and that make you feel good.
That’s it! That’s what confidence is! If you can do that, and be in a good mood, women are going to flock to you!
That’s because women are attracted to guys who make them feel good, and if you’re in a good mood, it naturally and automatically makes the people around you feel good as well.
Just do what you want to do, Quentin. Stop worrying about whether there’s anything wrong with you (that’s negative thinking) and focus on making yourself happy. You’ll find that the women you want will come into your life much more quickly than you would think.
Anyone else have advice for Quentin on how to be confident? Anyone want to write a poem to Quentin about how stupid he is? Best one gets my contempt for spending time trying to impress someone you don’t even know. Leave it below.