I went out on a date with a woman and it went well! She wants to go on a second date with me and I want to go on one with her. How do I make the second date even better than the first one? What should I do?
Well Charlie, you didn’t tell me what you did on the first date, so I’m going to have to assume that it was the greatest first date ever.
I’m going to have to assume that you rented the 1992 Olympic Dream Team (which won the gold in basketball and went undefeated) to chauffeur you and your date around town on their shoulders, and to also astound passersby with stunning and magical feats of near impossibility at basketball.
Then, as you and your date won the lottery for the 8th consecutive time that night, you were carried aloft to a fountain of chocolate, where you bathed and ate and f*cked in the molten chocolate fountain.
Actually that got real weird real quick. That’s kind of f*cked up. You’d get pubes and hair and cum in the fountain, and then you’d eat from it? That’s really messed up.
This got dark real quick. It went from best date to worst date reeeeeeeeeeeal fast.
So let’s just move on.
An ideal second date would be one that continues the romantic and intimate development that you two enjoyed on the first date, in a conducive setting.
Perfect! So just do that!
Actually, what you’re looking to do on the second date is to continue the vibe of the first date.
That means that you should show up relaxed, comfortable, and in a good mood. No one wants to spend time with someone when they’re feeling negative or irritable, and this is particularly important on a date. So make sure that you get this right first, because it’s the most important part.
Now, for the date itself, you’re looking for something that’s going to bring you two closer together but also give you time to talk to each other and enjoy each other’s company.
That means the movies are out, because you could sit in the dark next to someone watching lights play on a screen anywhere, and you can’t even talk during it. Don’t take her to a movie.
Instead, use what you know about her to pick something to do that you think she’d enjoy. You’ve been on a date with her, so you should know some of her likes and dislikes, so plan accordingly! Did she mention that she likes the outdoors? How about a stroll through a park? Did she mention she likes animals? Zoos are a great place to go.
If you got through the whole first date without finding out some of the things she likes to do, then it probably wasn’t as good of a date than you’ve lead me to believe. If you really don’t know, then focus on something that you can do together, where there’s something to focus on besides the conversation between you, but it’s still relaxing and tranquil enough to have a good conversation.
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Like if she likes sports, you can take her to a baseball game. Baseball is slow as hell, and it’s something to watch when you can’t think of something to say, and you can talk or relax or watch baseball at your leisure.
I like baseball.
Anyway, focus on showing up relaxed, comfortable, and happy, and being the same fun, inviting, warm person you were on the first date, and everything else is going to fall into place. Don’t stress out on trying to find the “perfect date”, because you won’t.
Unless you assemble the Dream Team. That’d be f*cking sweet.
Anyone have any dating disaster stories? Or tips for Charlie? Leave ’em below.
And as always, if you’ve got any questions, send ’em here and I’ll answer them with a maximum amount of condescension and insults.