What do women really want in a guy? I don’t know how to become the type of guy that women want and it’s driving me crazy. What do women really want? What should I do?
Well Shawn, there is one type of man that women love above all others.
You have to be strong, but sensitive. You have to be kind, but firm. You have to be gentle, but powerful. You have to be evil, but considerate.
You have to be human, but also part crocodile. You have to be at least 40 percent machine. You have to have a perfect driving record. You have to be able to punt a football at least 40 yards.
You have to be able to take on a grizzly bear in a fist fight and win, but make the grizzly bear feel like it won the fight. You have to be able to eat 100 hard boiled eggs in one sitting.
You have to have the strength to lift 3 cars over your head without straining. You have to sweat solid gold. Your sh*ts have to be at least 20 inches in length, minimum.
What I’m trying to say is, that’s kind of a stupid question. There’s no specific “type” that women like more than any other.
There are women who like jocks. There are women who like nerds. There are women who like investment bankers. There are women who like janitors. There are women who like shut ins and there are women who like extroverted party animals.
Hell, there are women who like murderers. There are women out there who like every conceivable type of guy.
So you don’t have to worry about what type of guy you are, because there’s a woman out there who likes you for who you are. Don’t be somebody you’re not.
But let’s talk for a second about the traits that women really like in men. If you’ve got these traits, you’re golden. If you don’t, all it takes is a bit of focus to acquire them.
So, what are the traits that women like in men?
Well, first of all, first and foremost, most importantly, the big one, the important one, the one you don’t want to miss, the first one, firstly, etc.
They like guys who are genuinely enjoying life.
In reality, both men and women like this in their partners. We all like to be around people who feel good, because they make us feel good. This goes for you, it goes for women, it goes for your parents, it goes for everybody.
So how do you do that? Well, just focus on being in a good mood as much of the time as you can. This means dropping negative thoughts when they come up in your mind, and replacing them with positive ones.
It means looking on the bright side instead of being pessimistic. And most of all, it means being relaxed, comfortable, and happy as much of the time as you possibly can.
The only thing you really have control over in this world is your mood and your attitude, so act like it. Be a positive person. Enjoy yourself. Women will be attracted to that, no matter who you are.
The second thing you need to keep in mind is this: you need to go after what you really want to do.
The most attractive thing a woman can possibly see in a man is that he’s the type of person who goes after what he wants, and only does the things that he really wants to do.
That means pursuing a passion. It means pursuing hobbies that make you feel happy and fulfilled. It means living your life in a way that makes you happy and fulfills you on a deep personal level.
Now obviously this one is a little bit harder to just live up to. I’m not telling you to quit your job if you hate it (although you probably should). What I am telling you is that women find it insanely attractive if they can sense that you’re getting what you want out of life on your terms.
So if you’ve got a passion that’s fallen by the wayside, pick that sh*t back up. A man who’s pursuing his passion is like catnip to women. Why do you think rock stars have women throwing themselves at them? It’s because they’re pursuing their passion.
That’s it. I’m going to skip the pithy sign off line this time.
Anyone else have advice for Shawn? Want to tell me about your passions? Leave ’em below.
And as always, if you’ve got any questions, send ’em here and I’ll answer them with a maximum amount of condescension and insults.