Why Did She Ghost Me And Disappear?

I had a date the other night with an amazing woman that I’m crazy about. She told me that she would text me, but then she never got in contact. I got in contact with her and scheduled a date, and she said she would be there, but then she didn’t show up. What gives? Why is she telling me one thing but then doing another?

Pete N.

Well Pete, it’s probably because you talked only about your cats while you were on a date with her. Don’t get me wrong, some women like cats, but telling her the names of your 17 different cats and how each of them relates to each other including genealogy, interpersonal relationships, cliques, feuds, feeding schedules, and sex lives is a bit much.

She told you she’d text you because she didn’t want you to murder her and feed her to your cats.

Then she didn’t show up to your date because she didn’t want you to murder her and feed her to your cats.

Don’t murder women and feed them to your cats, Pete.

But seriously, there’s a few reasons why this could have happened. She could have gotten busy and forgotten to text you. She could have lost your number. She could have been excited to go on the date, and then something came up and she had to miss it.

Or, there’s another reason why she told you she would do something and then didn’t do it.

She could have not felt comfortable telling you the truth.

For whatever reason, she just didn’t feel ok with telling you the truth, and so she told you what you wanted to hear. Maybe you gave off a creepy vibe. Maybe she’s had bad experiences with letting guys down in the past. Maybe she just didn’t feel like dealing with the fallout if she said no.

Whatever the reason, there’s one thing you should do in this situation.

No, it has nothing to do with your axe and some cats. Dude, that’s f*cked up. I’m going to stop giving you advice if you keep bringing that up.

What you should do is this: stop taking it personally. You can’t know the exact reason why she flaked on you, and there’s nothing you can do about it. So why continue to let yourself think that it was about you?

Just let it go. It’s her problem, not yours. She flaked because of reasons that have nothing to do with you, and there’s no benefit in thinking about it anymore after today. You can let it go and put it behind you.

Let me put it this way: you have zero control over what she does. You could be the greatest man in the world and she could still flake on you if she felt like it. There’s nothing you can do to control her.

So give up on trying to control her! She flaked on you… so what? All that means is that you don’t have to take her so seriously in the future. Go be with other women… women who don’t flake on you. Treat yourself with respect and focus on having a good time, no matter who you’re with.

If she reaches out to you and apologizes for flaking, sure, go see her again. But make sure she knows that you value your time, and that you don’t want to be with someone who’s going to flake out on you when you make plans.

Do that, and women will stop flaking on you – because they know you won’t stand for it. Also, they’ll be afraid that you’ll chop them up and feed them to your cats. You f*cking psycho.

Anyone been flaked on recently and want to vent about it? Ever flake on a girl and have it totally not be your fault? Leave it below.

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