Over and over again I’ve seen women go for assholes instead of good guys like me. How can I get women to like me instead of jerks who will treat them like sh*t? I’m a good guy, I treat women well, and yet I constantly get shut down and get put in the friend zone. What should I do?
Oh Bob. Ohhhhhhhhhhh Bob.
We’ve been over this before in these parts, but it’s good to revisit it every once in a while.
Bob, it’s going to be sh*tty for you to read this article, but that’s ok, because you deserve sh*tty things.
Do you know what treating women well means, Bob? It means treating them like people. It means not treating them like walking bags of flesh that you want to stick your cock into.
I don’t think you actually know what “treating women well” means, as evidenced by the fact that you say women “constantly” put you in the “friend zone”.
I’ve talked about how sh*tty the concept of the friend zone is before, but for those who haven’t read it or are too dull to get it through their thick f*cking skulls: the friend zone is bullsh*t.
When you say you got put in the “friend zone”, what you mean is that you acted nice to a woman with the express intention of getting her to f*ck you, and then when she decided she didn’t want to have sex with you, you got butthurt, got pissed at her for “friend zoning” you, and took your big boy ball and went home.
That’s some bullsh*t. It’sf*cked up enough to be friendly towards a woman with the expectation that that means she’s going to want to sleep with you. I mean, how f*cked up is that?
You should be friendly towards women (and pretty much everybody) as a matter of principle, not because you expect to get f*cked for it. And to put that expectation on a woman, who just wants to be friendly with a new person, is even more f*cked up.
So don’t complain about the friend zone. If you’re friends with a woman, great! Everyone could use more friends. Don’t assume that acting decently towards a woman means that she should be expected to have sex with you, because that makes you a f*cking asshole.
And not even the kind of asshole that gets laid.
Which brings me to my next point. While I’m sure that your judgement of the guys who you see being successful with women is colored by your obvious envy and jealousy, I’m sure that some of them do act like jerks sometimes.
However, that does not mean you have to act like a jerk in order to get the girl.
In fact, guys who act like jerks around women most of the time are not successful, and you’re probably just extrapolating one or two instances into a whole pattern of behavior, because why not when you’re jealous, insecure, and acting like a sh*tty person.
You know why a woman calls you a “nice guy” but has no interest in dating you? It’s because you’re hiding your sexual and romantic desire from her, and hoping that acting like a friend will make her want to sleep with you.
Jerks don’t hide their sexual desire, but they do act like assholes about it. So when they occasionally get laid, you can crow about how “women love assholes!” when in truth, they just like guys that aren’t ashamed of being attracted to someone.
You’ve got this assumption deep down that a woman is going to be offended and turned off by your sexual desire for her, and so you hide it. that’s why she’s not interested in you, not because she’s a bitch, or because of the “friend zone”. It’s because you’re worried that if she knows you’re attracted to her, she’ll be disgusted, and you’ll lose your chance.
Don’t hide your desire from women. If you’re attracted to her, you don’t have to hide it! Women like it when men are attracted to them!
But that doesn’t mean you should act like an asshole either. What you’re aiming for is to be a guy who doesn’t hide that he’s attracted to women, but also treats them like people, and is a generally good person to everyone he meets.
Do you know what you call a guy like that? You call him a guy who gets laid.
And he’s a good person too. Something that right now you can only aspire to be.
Anyone have advice for poor, misguided Bob? Stories about how a jerk got what was coming to him? Leave ’em below.
And as always, if you’ve got any questions, send ’em here and I’ll answer them with a maximum amount of condescension and insults.